I know I said that we could all vote but since I made up the award, I also made up the rules and therefore am allowed to change them.
First, I’d like to just say that I know it is a hard job to be a wife and *good enough* daughter-in-law when you find yourself in a no-win situation. I know that for many of you, living in your no-win circumstances creates more stress to the already hard job of, not just being married, but of staying married. So to Ann, Peggy, Tammy, Lisa and all the other “not good enough” wives out there, I bow to your struggle and hope you can hear my applause as I clap for you sitting at my laptop!
I don’t miss the irony of the fact that these bad mother-in-law situations are based on the very relationship that every one of us should be supporting. Women banding together to support one another through life. What the heck is wrong with the mother-in-law who doesn’t get that?
Um, probably a subject for another day.
Meanwhile, I must give you the update before I announce the winner.
Granny is gone and I miss her already.
She keeps the house running smoothly, does more laundry than is humanly possible and makes me feel a little less crazy…
A little less crazy…because she sees what pig-children we’re raising and she knows I’ve tried for all these years to show them the right way.
A little less crazy…because she hears their smart mouths and knows that this has never been acceptable and I haven’t given up.
A little less crazy…because she sees her firstborn PhilBillPaul’s quirks (a.k.a. annoying habits) and knows I’m not a total nag. They bug her too!
Most importantly, Granny has kept coming back for over 20 years and has never made me feel judged or made me feel like I wasn’t “good enough” for her son or a “good enough” mother to her grandchildren.
I just wanted to be sure you all know that I don’t take that for granted.
So when she calls from the Atlanta airport on a layover and wants to come stay for a week, you can understand why I welcome her with open arms!
As for the WINNER of Wife of the Year…
It really isn’t me because Granny makes it too easy.
Melinda and Diane are contenders because their MILs actually live with them but I think once you establish your boundaries and get into a routine, that would be a good thing…even Melinda admitted her MIL isn’t that much trouble and they both say they get childcare help which is a bonus no matter what!
JOANNE IS THE WINNER!!!!
Because 5 & 1/2 weeks is too long for a house guest, I don’t care who it is!! Then she did it again two years later for 6 weeks. WOO-HOO!!
Or we could ask her why she invited her back???
But sometimes the reasons show themselves later.
I’m pretty sure they have shown themselves since she shared this…
She now lives 8 miles from us since my FIL passed on Thanksgiving.
I must say that the kids love her and my husband does in small doses, like dinner or the movies. I’m the one who listens to her concerns, gives her practical advice, and makes her laugh when she’s down.
The line that got me though was this one that is a perfect little lesson we could all learn from…
It turns out that not expecting much from her for myself has been really good for our relationship and we have now started to become friends!
Congratulations Joanne and what a gift you have given your husband, your family and your MIL by making her a part of your life.
Just in case they haven’t noticed, I did!
Thanks to all of you for being candid and sharing – it’s exactly the kind of thing that I hope will continue to happen here often!
Truly, you’re all winners in my book!