Psst…if you are a parent, lean in close.
Dim your screen…don’t let anyone see what you’re reading…
Especially your teens.
I heard this BIG news story on several channels on Monday so I had to do a little online research and share these revelations with you!
Two new studies confirm fewer crashes among teens with supportive parents and clear rules.
Did you get the two revelations in that sentence?
Let’s review (for my teen readers – who happen to be my kids)…
1. Supportive Parents
Teen Translation: Nagging “in-your-business” parents who ask you things like “Where are you going?”
My personal favorite annoying question that I know my children will attest to…”Who is riding in what car?”
2. Clear Rules
Teen Translation: Annoying, stupid things your nagging parents repeat hundreds of times before you are 18.
My personal favorite rule “Tell us your plans, destination(s) and passengers before you leave and don’t change them after you leave the house.”
Seems super clear to me but the darling twins still have a hard time with this one.
What I really wanted to find out was how much these new studies cost???
WHY OH WHY didn’t they just call me?
And a few other strict, not-fun parents like me?
Oh, that’s right – we are hard to find because we are almost extinct.
One of my most favorite lines from a Fox news affiliate…
They also found that teenagers who have to ask to use the car were more likely to wear their seat belts and not talk on their cell phones.
I added the bold emphasis.
HAVE TO ASK TO USE THE CAR?!!
Oops, sorry, don’t mean to SCREAM but are there really still parents MAKING their kids ASK TO USE THE CAR?
Thanks for letting me rant.
Because as I have admitted before, I have issues…
About parents who are more worried about their kids being popular and their kids liking them than of the seriousness of giving our teenagers a bright, new, shiny car but none of the responsibility that goes with it.
This is the magnet I purchased and made the kids drive around with when they were learning to drive. Kept one in the trunk of each car.
Yes, I am that parent.
I prayed a lot. But I also remember thinking if the message on that magnet makes just one impatient, tailgating, honking, rude driver stop and realize that a new young driver was at the wheel in front of them, then the magnet was effective.
We also paid for private driving lessons with a veteran police officer and driver’s education instructor who came highly recommended. He made a tremendous difference in their confidence level and spent some serious time teaching them how to handle the big metal
weapon car in scary situations.
So in case you didn’t know until now, it’s official…
Firm Parents Keep Drivers Safe
In all seriousness, if you are a parent and did all the right things and suffered the loss of a teen, I send my heartfelt sympathy. Sometimes, accidents really are accidents. I’m certain that the devastation and heartbreak never goes away.
If you have a teen learning to drive and you need some help and guidelines, here is more info about the study:
Parenting Teen Drivers
On the heels of two studies published in the journal Pediatrics, the Young Driver Research Initiative (YDRI) has developed a comprehensive report of recently published research providing evidence-based recommendations for teen driver safety practitioners and parents that may reduce teen crash risk. It’s called Driving Through the Eyes of Teens, A Closer Look. A set of fact sheets and a webpage including expert advice have also been created to help parents enhance their skills to help teens safely navigate the first years of driving.
I’m grateful I got the first three to 18+ but as usual, the study, the book, the manual, the instruction guide, etc., etc., came out just after I needed it and I had to just use common sense and “go with my gut.”
Ridiculous mother. Unreasonable rules. Uncool and politically (and socially) incorrect. Not their best friend.
Yes, I am that mother.
And this is not an apology.