Wow, my plan to have lighthearted and funny posts on Monday has already been derailed.
Finding the funny becomes difficult when your children display poor judgment and make bad decisions.
When the assistant principal calls you on Friday afternoon to discuss discipline problems about two of your four children, the Superbowl party weekend takes on a different tone.
I’ll save the details of the school problems for later. Perhaps later will be when they are married with teenagers. I’m not making any promises though. I can only say that I will respect their privacy for now.
Here’s the thing about teenage problems vs. toddler problems. The timeout chair doesn’t work anymore. The consequences are much longer lasting. The impact of their poor judgment can affect more than just your immediate family.
It is also a time when you, as the parent, question all that you have tried to teach and wonder if they’re going to make it in the world.
Then you have to dig deep to find the consequences to match the actions. And follow through.
Because in the end, following through with the discipline with your kids means more than a minor inconvenience for the parents.
Because putting them on restrictions puts the whole family on restrictions.
For those of you who are still in the toddler or tween stage and haven’t made it to the teen years, it’s like staying home to potty train but oh, so much worse. Because they’re not so cute and funny anymore.
But you know that this really is about teaching them life lessons.
And those monotonous days you wanted to change are the days you wish you could bring back.
“Sure, I’ll read Green Eggs & Ham again.”
I bow to those of you who have made it through this stage.
I wish I had some great tips for those of you approaching this stage.
But in the words of my good friend Ann, “I got nothing.”
And this weekend revealed the answer to the burning question on our Happy New Year card:
Why do we take more pictures of
our two wiener dogs than of our kids?
Because right now, they are cuter and they don’t talk back.
Life Lesson (LL): Just when you relax and think things are going well, teenagers will remind you that they were just lulling you into a false sense of security to see if you’re still paying attention. Especially when you thought you were already paying attention!
Share a Life Lesson (SALL): I am open to (and openly begging for) any constructive suggestions on making it through these teen years without becoming a bitter old woman with a substance abuse problem. Give yourself and your kids code names if necessary just share, please share…