Comments on: Never Enough Syndrome http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/ Real life. Real lessons. Mon, 06 Feb 2012 16:47:27 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: SherraLifeLesson.com » Little Lesson #7 Teenager Dating Tips http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-434 SherraLifeLesson.com » Little Lesson #7 Teenager Dating Tips Wed, 28 May 2008 10:47:21 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-434 [...] The definition of dating for us is getting in a car and going somewhere without adult chaperones. We like to be crystal clear with our definitions because it seems that their full-time job is twisting our words, looking for loopholes and the Never Enough Syndrome. [...] [...] The definition of dating for us is getting in a car and going somewhere without adult chaperones. We like to be crystal clear with our definitions because it seems that their full-time job is twisting our words, looking for loopholes and the Never Enough Syndrome. [...]

]]> By: Sherra http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-417 Sherra Tue, 27 May 2008 17:51:57 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-417 julieann » Thanks for that great Erma addition. I think we're at the stage at our house where our kite strings are all tangled up. (Well, that and we're just plain outnumbered!) Hopefully we'll get them untangled and live to tell about it…I do look forward to the day that they are all soaring and I've worked myself out of this job! I'm not sure I ever read that excerpt and I love it! :) julieann » Thanks for that great Erma addition. I think we’re at the stage at our house where our kite strings are all tangled up. (Well, that and we’re just plain outnumbered!) Hopefully we’ll get them untangled and live to tell about it…I do look forward to the day that they are all soaring and I’ve worked myself out of this job!

I’m not sure I ever read that excerpt and I love it! :)

]]> By: julieann http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-413 julieann Mon, 26 May 2008 23:25:16 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-413 Thought I'd add some more Erma to the site. Everyone has probably already read this one before, but it's worth having a copy tucked away. Mine is a kindergarten project, a faded kite with crepe paper tail, dated 5/22/96 created by my youngest while we were living in Springfield, IL Children are like kites. You spend a lifetime trying to get them off the ground. You run with them until you're both exhausted and breathless. They crash...they hit the rooftop! You patch and comfort, adjust and teach. You watch them lifted by the wind and assure them that they can fly. Finally they are airborne. They need more string and you keep letting it out. But with each twist of the ball of twine, there is a sadness that goes with the joy. The Kite becomes more distant and you realize it won't be long before that beautiful creature---your child---will snap the lifeline that binds you together and will soar as it is meant to soar---free and alone. Only then do you know that you did your job. Okay, you can all get a hankie now. Erma always did know just how to tug at the heartstrings. Thought I’d add some more Erma to the site. Everyone has probably already read this one before, but it’s worth having a copy tucked away. Mine is a kindergarten project, a faded kite with crepe paper tail, dated 5/22/96 created by my youngest while we were living in Springfield, IL

Children are like kites. You spend a lifetime trying to get them off the ground. You run with them until you’re both exhausted and breathless. They crash…they hit the rooftop! You patch and comfort, adjust and teach. You watch them lifted by the wind and assure them that they can fly. Finally they are airborne. They need more string and you keep letting it out. But with each twist of the ball of twine, there is a sadness that goes with the joy. The Kite becomes more distant and you realize it won’t be long before that beautiful creature—your child—will snap the lifeline that binds you together and will soar as it is meant to soar—free and alone. Only then do you know that you did your job.

Okay, you can all get a hankie now. Erma always did know just how to tug at the heartstrings.

]]> By: Sherra http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-410 Sherra Fri, 23 May 2008 04:49:25 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-410 Melinda » It's 2008 so say exactly what you want and when they don't get it -- do the same on their birthday or next holiday. Hee hee…okay, mean mom probably shouldn't be typing this late at night. ;) Melinda » It’s 2008 so say exactly what you want and when they don’t get it — do the same on their birthday or next holiday. Hee hee…okay, mean mom probably shouldn’t be typing this late at night. ;)

]]> By: Melinda http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-407 Melinda Tue, 20 May 2008 13:14:43 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-407 Happy Belated Mother's Day to all the mean moms! (and to the number one mean mom!!) Bet you've never gotten a belated mother's day card before. Like I said, I'm missing the e-mail subscription so I'm a day late (or later) and a dollar short. Love the note about scary baby. So WHAT did you buy yourself for Mother's Day with that dollar? I know you didn't buy gas! I'm still waiting on my Mother's Day card. Maybe next year? They really don't get it that even when we say we don't want anything, we really do. At least a card. Happy Belated Mother’s Day to all the mean moms! (and to the number one mean mom!!) Bet you’ve never gotten a belated mother’s day card before.
Like I said, I’m missing the e-mail subscription so I’m a day late (or later) and a dollar short. Love the note about scary baby. So WHAT did you buy yourself for Mother’s Day with that dollar? I know you didn’t buy gas!

I’m still waiting on my Mother’s Day card. Maybe next year? They really don’t get it that even when we say we don’t want anything, we really do. At least a card.

]]> By: Sherra http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-394 Sherra Thu, 15 May 2008 18:23:14 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-394 Tammy » Kids surprise us with their goodness at the times we need it most (sometimes) and I'm so glad your girls know what a great mother you are. I already knew that, my friend! Tammy » Kids surprise us with their goodness at the times we need it most (sometimes) and I’m so glad your girls know what a great mother you are. I already knew that, my friend!

]]> By: Tammy http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-392 Tammy Thu, 15 May 2008 16:25:07 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-392 This year Mother's Day was particularly hard for me as I struggled with some serious personal issues. I am ashamed to say that I was down in the dumps and having a much bigger pity party than Gayle above sounded to be having. But that evening my two girls (13 and 16) each gave me very special cards where they actually wrote in them instead of just signing their names. The words they wrote were a validation for all I do day in and day out for them. My youngest even wrote about she knows how much I love her even when I don't like her choices and I want to crush her head. (Just to note, I wouldn't really crush her head! I don't even spank!) So, they get it! They see and appreciate all that I do - even the stuff I think no one notices. And what a blessing that is for me. I will take mean mom status any day if it means I know my kids are capable of standing on their own. We are all blessed to be moms - even on the really crappy days! This year Mother’s Day was particularly hard for me as I struggled with some serious personal issues. I am ashamed to say that I was down in the dumps and having a much bigger pity party than Gayle above sounded to be having. But that evening my two girls (13 and 16) each gave me very special cards where they actually wrote in them instead of just signing their names. The words they wrote were a validation for all I do day in and day out for them. My youngest even wrote about she knows how much I love her even when I don’t like her choices and I want to crush her head. (Just to note, I wouldn’t really crush her head! I don’t even spank!) So, they get it! They see and appreciate all that I do – even the stuff I think no one notices. And what a blessing that is for me. I will take mean mom status any day if it means I know my kids are capable of standing on their own. We are all blessed to be moms – even on the really crappy days!

]]> By: Sherra http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-389 Sherra Tue, 13 May 2008 19:44:59 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-389 Diane » It is next to impossible to like them all the time - isn't it? But you're right…the love is always there. Very applicable to spouses too :) <br> Gayle » You are a GREAT mother!! And you're allowed to have a personal pity party too. If it makes you feel any better, Saturday night when Scary Baby got grounded, she stood in my bedroom door, threw a dollar on the floor and said in a *lovely* voice, "You'll have to buy your own Mother's Day present since I'm grounded." Oh yeah, the joys of motherhood are alive and well… Diane » It is next to impossible to like them all the time – isn’t it? But you’re right…the love is always there. Very applicable to spouses too :)

Gayle » You are a GREAT mother!! And you’re allowed to have a personal pity party too. If it makes you feel any better, Saturday night when Scary Baby got grounded, she stood in my bedroom door, threw a dollar on the floor and said in a *lovely* voice, “You’ll have to buy your own Mother’s Day present since I’m grounded.” Oh yeah, the joys of motherhood are alive and well…

]]> By: Gayle http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-388 Gayle Tue, 13 May 2008 18:17:16 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-388 Even though the only Mother's Day card or gift that I got came from MY OWN Mother....I love my children enough to forgive them for doing nothing in my honor, since they get good grades, don't drink or do drugs, do their chores and respect my authority. I guess that's more than a lot of parents can say these days. (sigh...can you tell I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself right now?). I know I'm a good mother...I know I'm a good mother...I know I'm a good mother....... Even though the only Mother’s Day card or gift that I got came from MY OWN Mother….I love my children enough to forgive them for doing nothing in my honor, since they get good grades, don’t drink or do drugs, do their chores and respect my authority. I guess that’s more than a lot of parents can say these days. (sigh…can you tell I’m feeling a bit sorry for myself right now?). I know I’m a good mother…I know I’m a good mother…I know I’m a good mother…….

]]> By: Diane http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/comment-page-1/#comment-387 Diane Mon, 12 May 2008 21:04:54 +0000 http://sherralifelesson.com/never-enough-syndrome/#comment-387 I love Erma and everything she wrote! I too am a mean mom and "love" my children too much. I tell my kids- I will ALWAYS love you, even when I don't like you at times. Hope you had a restful and reflective Mother's Day! I love Erma and everything she wrote!
I too am a mean mom and “love” my children too much.
I tell my kids- I will ALWAYS love you, even when I don’t like you at times.
Hope you had a restful and reflective Mother’s Day!

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