High Alert: Man on Board Blog

I am well aware that this site is read primarily by women. I’m fine with that.

In fact, reader comments are 98% women strong.

Yesterday that became 97%.

Rarely, if ever, will a comment become an actual post. That would be redundant.

But I also assume that many of you may never go back to an old post and read the comments.

Am I right? (I know I shouldn’t assume…)

In this instance, I felt deeply compelled to be sure you all didn’t miss this award-winning comment.

Okay, maybe not award-winning, because that infers there was a competition or a contest and there wasn’t.

If there was a contest, this is the blog badge I would bestow on the winner.

Wiener Award

The winner could put their award badge on their blog to celebrate and brag about their achievement.

If there was a contest, the winning comment would be found…where else but here…

Wiener Dog Monday!

Instead of a contest and because he doesn’t have a blog…

I’d like to introduce you to Command Sergeant Major Daniel Bowman.

Dan

He also happens to be the husband of my wiener dog-loving friend, Ann.

He wrote this comment and to say I was surprised would be a huge understatement.

I have thought long and hard how to contribute to this insightful place on the web without emasculating myself. All of the pseudo pink/purple hues that border the home page have made me swear not to tell the fellow members of my man world a thing about it. Sorry Sherra.

But having close ties with a contributor and a real feeling that life lessons need to be shared, I’m jumping in. It’s funny how we (or maybe it’s just me) learn things. Take friendship. Oh, not the friendship you find in a pick-up basketball game or a friendship you make at work, a real deep friendship that is closer and more real than I can fathom. I have friends and since my return from my tour of duty in Iraq I have some VERY close friends, but not the type of friendship that I have observed between my wife and the author of this web site.

Sherra, I’m jealous. Maybe jealous is too weak of a word, but I can’t think of another. I’ve never heard two people laugh so hard or talk so long on the phone about who knows what. How can two college sorority sisters who met over 26 years ago be so emotionally close to each other? Heck their relationship is closer than the one my wiener dog and I have with my wife and the three of us sleep in the same bed!

Don’t get me wrong, I’m not complaining, I’m a man of few words and anytime that massive verbal trail of every detail of my wife’s day and menstrual cycle can be directed to someone else’s ear, it’s a “praise the baby Jesus moment” for me.

I do wish I had that. Not the menstrual cycle, but the ability to share every detail of my life with someone (who’s not my spouse), who doesn’t judge or get paid for acting like they care. A true unselfish friend. When I look back to when I was away from my family for 15+ months I remember how my concerns were turned upon myself and my Soldiers.

I left my wife to fend for herself four thousand miles away, paying bills, raising our children, calling a plumber, and scratching the dog’s back. I only had 15 minutes on a phone every 2-3 days, that is if it didn’t go dead in the middle of a conversation and very limited email access. No time to discuss those details of the day, only enough time to verify that I was still alive and kicking.

Thank God for Sherra. She filled in for me and I owe her my thanks.

There’s a saying within the Military; “America isn’t at war, the Army’s at war, America’s at the Mall.”

My version is a bit different “America isn’t at war, the Army and its Soldier’s families and FRIENDS are at war…”

Thanks Sherra.

I can assure you Dan (and any other men who are lurking here) that you did not emasculate yourself. Women love words and Ann & I both loved yours. You are speaking our love language, dear!

It was my pleasure to be there for Ann while you were in Iraq serving our country with pride and honor. Thank YOU, Dan.

xoxoxo

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P.S. Now don’t be a weenie…go tell all your manly friends that you were featured on a girly blog 🙂

One year ago..

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Comments

  1. 1
    Cousin Dee says:

    Sherra,

    OK, you caught me, I have been keeping up with your site and yes, have become addicted to it. Cousin Sal and I talk about it at length. That is why I am commenting today. Love your picture of the solider, makes me proud and weepy at the same time. I want to give a “shout-out” to my nephew Rob who has just recently been deployed to Iraq. He is following in the footsteps of his grandfather and father and serving our country. I also want to lift up my sister Sal who at the same time was saying good-bye to her son on the way to Iraq, was moving our elderly parents into an apartment over her garage (and who has time to even go into all of that, story to follow I’m sure, when we can all take the time to breathe and laugh later!) News Flash-who would ever believe that the stupid little sister you could hardly stand to talk to when you were teenagers would become such an inspiration to what it means to persevere and to just keep putting one foot in front of the other. My love is endless. Cousin Dee

  2. 2
    Sherra says:

    Dayna–
    I’m touched and honored you all have been reading. Until this week, I thought it was safe to say that unlike many other bloggers, my family doesn’t read my site. Maybe I’m wrong and they’re all just LURKERS like you and Sally? 🙂

    Sally is busy putting us all to shame taking care of the world. Your parents, her son in Iraq and making us all proud. Please don’t tell me she’s still making yeast rolls and homemade everything.

    Sending prayers to all soldiers and their families…

  3. 3
    Laura says:

    Thank you to all the soldiers that put their lives on the line everyday!!!

    My sister’s husband is also in Iraq right now- he comes home in 2 weeks! While he was away she gave birth to their first child. I can’t imagine having to be as strong as both of them have been for the past year.

    Please keep all of the soldiers in your prayers. They fight so that you don’t have to.

  4. 4
    Sherra says:

    Laura–Amen to every soldier and their families – the hardships they endure while serving our country is beyond amazing and we should all be grateful every single day! Hope you’ll let you sister know about this post and that there are strangers who care and pray for them too!

  5. 5
    Nicki says:

    Ok – well because I was CRYING SO HARD after reading this last week, I couldn’t really see the keys on my keyboard to type a response. Now that I am a bit more composed…it is wonderful response. And I must say Sherra that you are incredible at holding onto friendships. It is inspiring to me and brings me a bit of the same feelings as Dan (a bit jealous I must admit.) My girlfriends from college and high school and I seem to drift in and out of each others lives. I would love to be closer to them, but often feel I am just without enough time to devote to having a deep friendship. And sometimes my sweet and sensitive husband actually gets jealous (“you told her and you didn’t tell me?”) So, there you have it.

    A big THANKS to Dan and ALL of the other soldiers in Iraq – I heard the General’s comments this morning on CNN and it sounds like you guys are doing a GREAT job and that things are getting better and better! WE ARE PROUD OF YOU!.

    And Sherra – next time, how about a mascara alert?

  6. 6
    Sherra says:

    Nicki–Hey now, Dan didn’t warn me when he sent the very unsolicited comment and made me cry so you get no “mascara alert” either. On the friendship note; time is all we have to give freely. Give some to yourself and those friends you are missing. It’s worth every moment 🙂 I’m glad to call you my friend, my dear xo

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    Tammy says:

    I loved the post as well and feel so strongly about women having deep and meaningful friendships with other women because they will be the ones that see us thru our darkest days. No offense to any of my great guy friends, but truly, it is the women that will step up to the plate when we are a blubbering mess of emotion!

    As for those in the military, I passionately believe that – regardless of your personal view points on what they are currently doing – they deserve to be supported, applauded, encouraged and prayed for constantly. They are putting their lives on the line so that all of us can keep running about our day, dashing to Target, having lunch with friends, worshiping at our choice of religious facility…the list could go on forever. It is because of their sacrifice and the sacrifice of their family members that we are gifted with the freedom we take for granted each and every day. Thank you to everyone with a family member, friend, neighbor, anyone you know that is serving our country in the military. God be with them.

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    Diane says:

    Friendships are what keep the world going. There are things you just can not share with your family- even your spouse- that come naturally with a GOOD friend.

    Thank you to all the soliders serving around the world.
    We are blessed with freedom and you all should be commended for your willingness to fight for that right. Our thoughts and prayers are with you and yours while you are seperated from each other.

  9. 9
    Sherra says:

    Tammy–So well said – thanks for your always thoughtful words!

    Diane–I know you totally GET IT about the friendship thing! Thanks too, for the shout out to the soldiers. I know Dan will enjoy reading them all. I wonder if he’s told any of his “manly” friends? 🙂

  10. 10
    Rhonda says:

    Oh Sherra,

    I now realize how I missed this post, I was sick in bed with the flu!

    How absolutely incredible! Where did this solider “come from?” Everything written is so well worded and heartfelt.

    Thank you for caring enough to go clear around the world and help the people of another country discover the beauty of true freedom. True happiness! What a great sacrifice. I am in awe of these soldiers.

    I am in awe of you, Command Sergeant Major Daniel Bowman

  11. 11
    Janet says:

    Thank you to all the men and women in the military…we do truly appreicate all they do for the freedom of all of us.

    AND Sherra I love your blog and look forward to it. I too am a MEAN mom and life just isn’t fair at our house…so I really appreciate knowing that there is someone else out there in the same boat! Thanks for sharing and keep making me laugh even through the tears.

  12. 12
    Sherra says:

    Rhonda–Glad you’re feeling better and catching up. Such kind words for Dan and all soldiers. Thank you!

    To get more of the back story of who he is and why he wrote you may want to read “Girlfriend Retreat”, “College Boys” and “Wiener Dog Monday” and I think you’ll be caught up. Dang, I’m feeling fancy putting three links in a comment. LOL

  13. 13
    Sherra says:

    Janet–Thanks for kind words for both soldiers and about my rants. Mean Moms Unite…I think we can start a new club and support each other. Maybe we can give have contests and awards for meanest. Just a thought 🙂

  14. 14
    Lisa says:

    Sherra,
    Thank you to Dan for sharing a part of himself with all of us. He’s very insightful and it sounds like he “gets us females.” The biggest thank you comes from my heart for all he is doing to keep me and my family and my friends safe here at home. May God bless him and keep him safe and bring him back to his family.

    Oh, by the way, those lovely offspring of yours, really do think you are cool,it’s just not cool to think so. My child can say your’re cool and your kids can say I’m cool, they just can’t admit their own parent is cool. In my child’s mind, I’M THE MEANEST! (sigh, sigh, roll the eyes).

    I forwarded the girlfriend blog to a good friend. I didn’t have to say a thing, you did it for me!

    Thanks!!!!!!

  15. 15
    Sherra says:

    Lisa–Dan is back home safe and sound and actually gets to retire in August!

    I’m quite certain that my kids aren’t telling anyone I’m cool and I’m okay with that. But I can testify that my kids think you are a very cool mom 🙂

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    Terry says:

    Ok I am on, I dont know how to do these blog things. I don’t even know if I am commenting in the right area? Anyway here goes…I am in love with Soldier Dan…wow I hope he is that thoughtful with wife Ann because then I can feel all warm and fuzzy inside that they have a beautiful marriage. I have the same thoughts as the other girls…I think about our soldiers a lot and am very greatful for what they do and also pray all the time that they can come home soon. I don’t think I would have the strength to be married to a military man, so hats off to all the strong women out there who are! One more thing I do admire your ability to be such a good friend to a lot of people.

  17. 17
    Sherra says:

    Terry » You’ll have to ask Ann about whether he is thoughtful with her – I don’t want to speak for her. But my observation from afar is that he is. 😉

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