Facebook Pressure

How many of you are on Facebook?

I just read this weekend that baby boomers are the fastest growing segment on Facebook.

Side note: I’d tell you where I read that and provide a link to it but I’m old and tired and can’t remember.

I’m so out of touch. And uncool.

Beyond the list of communication tools I already possess…

  • This blog
  • Email
  • Cell phone
  • Telephone
  • Pen and paper
  • Close To Home© John McPherson

    I adore my friends and love keeping in touch. Really I do.

    I need some convincing though.

    Do I really need to be on Facebook? Tell me what I’m missing and if I should just skip it and jump right into tweeting on Twitter?!

    Go ahead, throw some peer pressure my way. I’ll let you know if I cave…


    One year ago..

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  1. 1
    julieann says:

    Why trade real relationships for 348 “cyber friends?” You do what you do very well and it’s REAL. Is Facebook really going to add more joy to your life? I vote to keep doing what you do best with the folks who really care for you (but then I also use a circa 1999 cell phone, so what do I know about technology ? And no, they haven’t kicked me out of Silicon Valley yet for refusing to upgrade, though I don’t share my low-tech sentiments with folks out here).

  2. 2
    wendy says:

    Facebook has allowed me to reconnect with friends I haven’t seen or talked to in many, many years. I didn’t know where any of these people lived or how to get in touch with them. Thanks to FB, a huge void has been filled in my life. My dad is even on FB for cryin’ out loud and he’s 74 years old! He is going to hold “Facebooking for Cool People” classes for the seniors at his church. I can’t tell you what I think is best for you, but I’d love to have you on Facebook you’d know what’s going on with me too! There is no rule that says you can’t just lurk around!

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    Karen Emerson says:

    Join facebook!! It’s fun! I have been able to get in touch with friends from high school who I really enjoy getting in touch with. I can post pictures to share quickly. There are fun groups to join and then you get updates on the things you’re intersted in. (TV shows, Oregon turned 150, President Obama, or you can create your own group and administor it and invite people in, etc.) It has an IM feature built in. There are fun/silly things that you can send to your friends like birthday cards, Mardi Gras items, or Star Wars characters. Or you can start a virtual food fight! And you do not have to sign on everyday. No pressure from me, but it has been a fun addition for me. 🙂

  4. 4
    Steff says:

    OMG! It can be the biggest “time-waster” out there, if you let it, but it’s soooo fun!!! It’s great catching up with old friends AND I like it because it helps me keep up with my daughter who’s away at college out of state. I can see what she’s up to, look at her pictures, see her friends…kinda handy! 🙂

  5. 5
    Karen Emerson says:

    Oh I forgot… I have the above Close to Home comic posted on my facebook page, and I read the same online article that you read about how facebook NEEDS our generation to really make it work. It was very funny! We’ve been out of high school long enough that there are people we actually miss, and we’ve also forgotten any teenage angst and put it behind us and we’re glad to be in contact with people who may have not been the nicest people to us, AND we’re mature enough to know NOT to post drunken photos of ourselves to be seen by the world and immortalized forever! 🙂

  6. 6
    Sherra says:

    Okay, so far that’s 3 for and 1 against the Facebook pressure plus a few private emails weighing in. I’m laughing because:

    1) I do check on my children regularly – our current rule is that I have to have their password if they want a FB account. My house, my internet, my rules. I know this changes when they are on their own but they’re not so…

    2) What if I already keep in touch with everyone I want to? It’s one thing I’ve done pretty well throughout my life and that is keep in touch with people.

    Still considering all peer pressure so feel free to weigh in on this subject! 🙂

  7. 7
    Karen Hedgelon says:

    Don’t give in to peer pressure – that’s what you tell your kids! You do fine keeping in touch. This afternoon I sat on my deck listening to the water and the birds while watch two weiner dogs roll on their backs in grass then lay there in the sun. Would I trade that for time on FB??? NOOOOOOOOOO!! Just say no.

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    Leigh Anne says:

    I’m voting for Facebook. I joined over a year ago. I love it as a means to keep tabs on my college kids. I get to see fun pictures of what they and their friends are up to that I probably wouldn’t get to see otherwise. Their friends even invite me to be their friend! It’s fun when they Facebook chat me too! Just another way to stay connected. I too have connected with some old childhood friends I haven’t seen in years.

    I even formed my own Facebook Group – Mother’s Who Embarrass Their Children by Having their Own Facebook Page – we are over 700 members strong – you should join!!

  9. 9
    Teri says:

    Okay, you KNOW that I’m technologically challenged…BUT…I think that FACEBOOK, while having many merits in finding “long lost friends”, can potentially be a HUGE competitor for time and attention as well…I DID sign up for an account (don’t keel over, Sherra) but it was probably their shortest account to date, as I only had it for 20 minutes! How does one say this diplomatically?!? Oh heck!, I’ll just do what I always do well and blurt it out! There were MANY faces that popped into my life in that 20 minute span that were people I had hoped would stay “LONG LOST” and so I decided that rather than broach that awkward moment of “ignoring” someone’s request to “be my friend”, I would stay in the cyberspace world clearly defined as e-mail for as long as possible. Face it, Sherra, I think that you like way more people than I do, so you might want that to weigh heavily in your decision! ;0)

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    Karen says:

    My husband talked me into joining this past Dec. ( I said I didn’t have time) as he had connected with many college friends. I too have found HS and college friends I never would have found otherwise and it’s been fun to re-connect. So many of us in this age group joined to keep up on our kids and found out we enjoyed it ourselves! I have also re-connected with people locally that for one reason or another I had lost touch with. 6 months into a new business–I’d say that has been helpful. I have to be very discplined with it however or it will suck my time away. If someone sends a friend request or a message I want to go on and take care of it and pretty soon I’ve wasted 30 minutes. Some people are obsessed and e-mail me on FB rather than my other account and I don’t like that. I’ve decided to only go on when I’m watching something on TV so at least I’m kind of “multi-tasking” The guy who works on my computer told me today that since I’ve had two issues with my laptop since Dec-it could be everyone in my family using it for FB! I’m not sure if I helped your decision one bit 🙂

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    Melinda says:

    Well, I’m a “For” Facebook vote I guess. I know you have this blog but I bet there are some folks on Facebook that you might find that would enjoy it as well. I’m like all the others in lauding the finding folks you’ve lost touch with and I know you can’t even believe that about me! High school and twins club folks. Not sure if you care but you just might surprise yourself since you are all about keeping up with folks. We don’t always have the time to respond on your blog and on Facebook you could keep tabs on us!! (and keep track of birthdays, lol!) There are a few folks that I have ignored and a few that I’m still looking for but I do think it can be a great tool IF you can control your time (which by reading your blog you have difficulty with anyway, lol!) so, your decision but it is a great way to spy on your kids. I like the fact that I can look ANYTIME. it’s amazing to me how many of them post pictures that should NEVER be made public! One more thing to preach about to my children.
    Can’t wait to see what your decision is. I’m sure you’ll add me as a friend if you join, won’t you?

  12. 12
    Kerri says:

    OK, I’m going to be another odd woman out here. I also vote NO for Facebook. It seems like a complete time waster and I can see Teri’s point in the awkwardness of not wanting to be someone’s friend just because you are invited.

    I will add that I have never even been on Facebook to look around so maybe I’m completely off base but it seems like communication loses its personal touch on sites like Facebook and Twitter.

    I’ll be interested to see what you choose to do. You’ve obviously hit on a hot topic for your blog!

  13. 13
    Abby says:

    aunt Sherra you need to join facebook. im on it and thats how i talk to your two daughters and thats also how i keep in contact with aunt julie… my mom doesnt have one though

  14. 14
    Sherra says:

    @Abby: You can call me…or text me…just in case I don’t ever join Facebook 😉

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    Melinda says:

    I’m just going to add a little more to my previous post. Yes, you will get requests from folks that you don’t care to be in touch with but it’s not embarassing at all to ignore them. No stress, no worries, it’s all up to you and while the time factor does continue to be the biggest problem, I’m pretty sure you could handle it.
    I only saw one “against” vote that had actually tried it out and I’m not sure that 20 minutes is enough of a trial. Sorry!
    I know you’ve done an awesome job of staying in touch with folks from your past but let’s face it, not all of them do such an awesome job of staying in touch with you! This is the way. They can post ONE time and all of their friends, including you, can know where they are going on vacation, where they have been, what is going on in their lives. I KNOW I’ve had things happen in my life that I will forget to tell you about. I DO hope you are still thinking about this decision. It’s one thing for all of us to subscribe to “your” life, why don’t you want to “subscribe” to ours? Just a thought.

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    Tammy says:

    DON’T DO IT!!!! Okay so I know that was shouting in the techo-language world but I feel really strongly about this subject. It opens the door to so much! Countless marriages have been ruined by people reconnecting with that long lost high-school/college sweetheart. Plus, I know you Sherra. You work hard to stay personally connected to the people in your life that matter. If you wanted someone back in your life that you had lost touch with, I have every confidence that you would seek that person out. Plus, from those that I know that use it regularly, it becomes an energy, time sucking machine that sucks the time away from the really important stuff…you know, like writing this blog that makes me feel better about the insanity of my own life. Or laundry. Or making the required recipes for certain holidays. So many fun things! Plus, if someone in your life that you cared about had some great news to share, they should call you or text you or – crazy, I know – send you a note!!! Facebook becomes another way to be lazy about connecting with people in our lives that supposedly mater. Since I have clearly established my vote against Facebook, I will sign off now. I have to go write some letters to friends that live far away. Archaic I know…I guess I am just old school all the way!


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